But knowing that, apparently, All woman would revel in an orgy with ten dirty and hairy men, gives me feelings of disgust.
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I haven't worked with Babalon, at least not extensively under that name. However, your wording may shed some light. "The Truth of our Flesh," you said. "The flesh of all women." It's true that all female bodies are shaped for the purpose of sex, as are males and... others. Our bodies create pleasant sensations in response to certain stimuli, and our brains are made to seek pleasure. That's the truth of the flesh.
But people are Complicated. Although we seek pleasure, the intricate wiring of brain and soul can be such that other experiences, even imaginary ideals, bring more joy than sexual touch. There are also negative stimuli that the brain will try to avoid (I believe it's possible to undercut that, which likely would lead to some orgies if done completely, but it holds for most people), and for most women that includes dirty hairy guys. The whore archetype is an isolated principle. It's impossible for a human to live up to for any length of time, because it means having no boundaries, which would quickly lead to disease and death. This is also the truth of the flesh.
(Although the Aghoris seem to do alright. "Black magic" or something. Go figure.)
As for the idealization: Strength and independence are respectable, and some people live that through abstinence. But since cultures tend to keep women under the boot via slut shaming, the Whore shows her independence by fucking whoever she wants. If that disgusts you... get over it.